From This Day On, part 3
We’ve covered two of the commitments we’re making so far in this series: Seek God with our spouse and Fight Fair. Today, it’s all about Having Fun. And the reason we need to talk about that is that the fun has gone out of a lot of marriages. It’s like the old joke: A man doesn’t know what happiness is until he gets married, and by then it’s way too late to do anything about it. Sad tribute to our times, I fear. But the truth is, couples have fun when they are dating, but then they get married, and life happens, and they stop enjoying each other.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 tells us this: Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthy toil. In other words, Enjoy life with your wife. Presumably, this also means that the wife is to enjoy life with her husband. It’s supposed to be more than a mere business relationship, where you split up the duties of running a household.
And, I know what some of you are probably thinking: We’ve got no money for fun. But fun doesn’t have to be expensive. When I started dating Jackie way back in high school, we didn’t have lots of money. Here’s what she recalled that was fun - sitting and talking about everything, going to the little drive-in movie theatre, picnics on the family farm, going bowling, coffee house with the youth group, working the concession stand together at high school basketball games, or just hanging out with family playing games.
We men pursue things, capture them, stuff them, and put them on our wall. Maybe it’s part of our God-given nature to fight the dragons. But too often, we pursue the woman of our dreams, win her, and then figuratively stuff her, and stick her on a wall. And what we hear a lot is, “Well, we don’t have time for fun anymore.” But, listen, if you don’t make time for fun in your marriage, you’re going to wake up one day and not have a marriage—at least not a good one. So, here are three types of fun that every couple needs to have to keep a marriage healthy and thriving.
Getting quality time together to talk and talk intimately and deeply about things. We read from the Song of Solomon 7:1-4, where the prince is bedazzling his love interest, and he talks to her, giving her details—because women love details, right? Look, there’s value in a date night, getting away just to be able to communicate with each other. And if you don’t mark out time for this kind of thing, here’s what you’ll find. You’ll be with family or friends, and everyone’s chipping in on the conversation. And suddenly, you hear your spouse throw something out there on the table—maybe it’s an opinion about a national or international event; maybe it’s a problem they are struggling with; maybe it’s a dream or a desire they have. And you hear it and you stop and say to yourself, “Man, I didn’t know that.” And you’re a little bummed that you’re hearing it for the first time in the presence of other people. But what you should be hearing is that you’ve lost contact. You’ve surrounded that face-to-face time. You have to guard that.
This is where you are hanging out with your best friend, doing something you enjoy with your wife or husband. It’s enjoying time doing common activities, beyond talking. Again, we see in the Song of Solomon 7:11 the pitch for getting away, heading to the countryside. You need to think something like getting away for the weekend. Let’s have someone take care of the dog, the kids. Leave the house and hang out together. Just as women typically crave face-to-face time, guys really come alive for the side-by-side things. It’s bonding for both spouses, but especially for the guy. And, again, it doesn’t have to be expensive to do things together. When Jackie and I were first married, we didn’t have leftover cash at the end of the month. We’d get up on a Saturday morning, head to the mall and window shop for 2-3 hours. Seriously, we didn’t buy a thing, just window shop. We’d then get $1 tickets to the movie matinee and buy lunch (a small bag of popcorn and a shared small coke), We’d get out of the movie, then window shop some more before heading home. But window shopping was cool because we would talk about what we liked and disliked, we would talk about dreams and plans. It was awesome. We also found out you could get cheap food somewhere and then sit and talk for 2-3 hours and get free refills on drinks.
I played basketball and softball, and Jackie would come to all the games. It was awesome to have her share that time. You hit a home run or make a three-pointer, and your woman is there to see it, it does something for a guy. We still find things to do together - find a weird recipe and cook it together, go on walks, do jigsaw puzzles, crossword puzzles, read the advice columns and try to come up with our solutions and compare them to the “experts.”
I don’t know what those shared experiences might be for you. Maybe it’s golf, or rock climbing, or NASCAR. Maybe it’s hunting. You may not like hunting, but I guarantee you will cement your relationship if you go, ladies, and find a way to stab a squirrel or strangle a rabbit or something. Maybe it’s board games or bird watching or kayaking or gardening. But whatever it is, make a commitment to enter into each other's world. Do it because he’s there, because she’s there, too. Go on errands together, pick up prescriptions together, grocery shop together, go buy a bra together. Sounds weird, huh? It’s just intentionally and consistently finding time to invest in each other.
Belly Button to Belly Button Fun
Ok, corny, right? But this is the third type of fun every marriage needs to have going on. Again, read a passage from Song of Solomon, chapter 7, verses 11-12. What’s being talked about there is nothing less than a call to go have sex in the park. Be careful. I wouldn’t choose Nationals Park, although I did see on Facebook a couple of weeks ago a report on a couple who were caught having sex in the cheap seats. But the passage is talking about getting away for some belly button to belly button time. According to Proverbs 5:18-19, this is definitely fun that we are to have throughout our marriage. Enjoy lovemaking with that spouse for 5, 10, 20, 40, 50, or more years. Have fun, for Pete’s sake.
So, some advice before we let you go. Guys, work on your approach. Guys think about sex way more than the ladies do, but we need to realize that fact has implications. While our first thought might be about sex, it’s not hers. So, get a little creative, build a little momentum. Be tender, be romantic, talk to her, bring her a gift, flowers, offer to rub her feet or back. Find out when it’s best for her, when she’s not exhausted from the daily grind.
And gals, here’s my advice to you. You don’t have to worry about working on your approach as much as committing to making one. Any approach. Guarantee that he will pick up on it. That’s because it’s always pretty much front and center for him, so use that to your advantage. Truth is that most men desire sexual intimacy more than most women. It’s not universal, ok? Just in general, this is true. And when the faucet is turned off and things go dry, it’s a crisis for the guy just like it would be a crisis for you if all of a sudden your husband went silent on you. And you are his only legitimate option—everything else for him is sinful. One of the greatest things you can do for your marriage is to come together and engage in frequent and creative lovemaking. It’s a gift, it’s honoring to God, and it renews and refreshes the covenant you both made at the altar.
Now, as we wrap up, I know some of you are going, “Well, he’s a jerk, and I don’t like him. And I don’t like you for telling me I ought to have sex with him.” I get it. But you once had fun, right? I mean, nobody marries someone they hate. At one time, you liked and loved each other. Think about what you were doing at that time to have fun together and get that going again. You got married because you were having fun. Start having fun again. You may think the guy at work looks better right now, or that the girl at the gym seems like she’d be more fun. Here’s my counsel: if the grass looks greener across the fence, it’s time to water your own lawn. You start having fun, you begin to seek God together again, you begin to fight fair, looking to reconcile and restore rather than to win, and you’ll start to get back what you once had. With God, all things are possible.
We are continuing our relationship series, From This Day On and each week we are exploring one of five principle commitments:
5.NEVER GIVE UP
John Gottman, an eminent marriage expert says that all couples fight: but healthy couples fight clean. Unhealthy couples fight dirty. Healthy couples work toward resolution. Unhealthy ones press for victory and control. He studied marriage for 16 years and in the couples he worked with, he mentions that he can watch couple fight for 5 minutes and determine with 91% accuracy if they will divorce.
Prov 27:15 says A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike;
3rd Book of E 7:2 It is better to pet a flesh eating cat with human thumbs than to live with a husband who is a jerkface.
We know this, and we see the setup, if we fight in unhealthy ways it is bad for us… so today let’s talk about how to Fight Fair.
Four Signs We Aren’t Fighting Fair
1 Criticizing: This is Gottman again, and he lists four ways that he’s seen couples fight unfairly and in ways that are unhealthy. This one is changing a complaint into criticism, “You told me you were going to do X, and you didn’t do it. I wish you would have done it!” That’s legit. But the unhealthy version becomes, “You NEVER do what you said you were going to do!”
2 Contempt: We make a mistake when we that, in effect that actions and words are all that a person is. Only God knows the heart, and it’s complicated. We can honestly assess what someone does, but it is a mistake to judge the person entirely on the external things we see. It’s a decision we make, and when we do it, we leave all grace at the door. The problem changes from something the person did, to us seeing the mean or unhealthy thing as WHO THEY ARE and you can’t fix that. Do you see it? The problem isn’t something said, or unsaid, or done or undone… the problem IS the person at that point.
3 Defensiveness: When we decide a person is truly dangerous, we make moves to protect ourselves. Don’t misunderstand – there are instances of actual abuse and danger – do what you need to do to be safe immediately and get someone else involved. But we’re talking about a more normal conflict, where we’ve made decisions about the other person – that they are toxic, that they are bad for business… so what do we do? We shut down, we withdraw, we withhold time and information and affection. This is a very dangerous stage of things if you want the relationship to survive.
4 Exile: Gottman called this “stonewalling” and it is where we say, I’m done. I don’t care what you say, I don’t care what you do, I’m done. This is the stage where we actively decide that we’re shutting down and closing off. When the “Exile” stage happens we’ve made the decision to be out the door and the other person may not know it yet.
This sounds pretty grim right? We’ve seen this in a lot of relationships around us. Some of us have experienced these firsthand and it hurts to remember. Here’s the thing. In a relationship with you and another person, if you’re both still alive… the relationship is what you both agree it is. You can define it almost any way you want. And that can be cause for hope! Don’t listen to the doom and gloom script of our culture, or people on the sideline, or unrealistic expectations from stupid romantic comedies. Let’s see what scripture has to say:
James 1:19-20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
The first thing is, Be Quick to Listen. Proverbs 18 says that a fool finds no pleasure in understanding, but delights in airing his own opinions. And Solomon didn’t even have the internet!
Learn the tool of active listening. Here we listen, understand, repeat back what we’ve heard and affirm that we understand the point. In the heat of battle, if someone is really angry or upset, let them vent – understand what they are saying and why they are saying it. Be quick to listen. There is probably a legitimate beef in there somewhere – get to it. Active listening helps keeps the topic on topic. So often the fight becomes about, “you’re yelling at me”, or “you’re being passive aggressive and that’s really irritating” and we lose the thread on moving to agreement and resolution.
The second thing is to Be Slow to Speak. Proverbs 21 says, “shut up – it will save you a lot of trouble” – I’m not making that up, read it, it’s in the back half of the chapter. Don’t fly off the handle, it’s rarely helpful. If you have something you want to bring up that might cause trouble… be careful with that. Think it through.
Sometimes it’s ok to just be quiet.
Men are men and will do stupid men things from time to time. Sometimes your best strategy is to give them some grace and let it go. Girls are girls and are mysterious. What are they doing in the car before they start it up and drive away? Why does it take 4-6 minutes? You don’t have to talk about it, just let it lie there. If it’s important and you do want to confront someone, ask two questions before you jump in:
1.Should it be said?
2.Should it be said now?
Stay focused on the issue at hand. This kind of speaking is the opposite of active listening. Be careful. And work on deep improvements during non-conflict times.
Some Practical Advice During Conflict:
Don’t call names
Don’t raise your voice
Don’t get historical
Don’t say, “never” or “always”
Don’t threaten divorce
Don’t fight forever
Don’t quote your pastor during a fight
The third thing is to Be Careful with Anger.
Ephesians 4:26 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
It is interesting that the Bible doesn’t say, “don’t get angry” – it says be slow to get angry and when you’re there – be careful. The movie Inside Out actually did a lot of research into the most current science on emotions and one of the things they found was that anger is almost always tied to a sense of justice “or fairness.”
When something unfair happens, or that we perceive to be unfair happens, we get angry. That can be a good thing – it motivates us to action… just be careful because anger can also be very destructive and wounding to the people close to us.
Also, realize that anger is almost always an opportunity. When something small happens and someone gets VERY angry, it is a clue for us to learn something important about our own hang-ups. When our response is disproportionate, don’t let go until you get to the “why” that made someone angry.
Like the tip of an iceberg, the anger we can see is an indicator of a profound wounding. If we can understand it and deal with it well… we can find healing for our deepest hurts.
So if we fight in unhealthy ways, let’s commit to do better! We can all learn to be more Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak and to Be Careful with Anger. It will help us to Fight Fair… and it will bless you and the folks around you.
Imagine a 50% chance that you’d lose all your money from investments today, a 50% chance you’d get killed in a car wreck or a plane crash, a 50% chance that Frosted Flakes caused cancer, or maybe a 50% chance you’d get attacked by a herd of flesh eating cats, with human thumbs.
You would do something to prevent this. No one would be OK with those odds. Yet these are the current numbers for marriages ending in divorce. We have to look at relationships differently, and go beyond our culture’s way of doing things, to buck the trend.
Over the next few weeks, we’re talking about 5 commitments that we can make to upgrade, strengthen and protect relationships, here they are:
NEVER GIVE UP
Our culture lifts up romantic love as the pinnacle of happiness… and there is a lot of joy there. They say, Find the one! Meet the one! You won’t be fulfilled in life until you meet the one. And this is true. But not in the way they mean it. When it comes to marriage:
GOD IS YOUR ONE AND YOUR SPOUSE IS YOUR TWO
Matt 22:37 Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' 38 This is the first and greatest commandment
When it comes to making another person “the One”, there are two problems.
First, we make terrible gods. If we put a person as the One in our lives, we’re setting them up to fail… and we’re setting ourselves up to resent them when they fall short. Don’t ask your spouse, or friend, or coach to do something they aren’t capable of doing!
The 2nd problem is that when our idols fail, we hate them. And you know the drill – a guy dating a great girl says, "She's so organized and she's so driven and she's such a, I love the way she's so passionate about life!" And then they're married for a while and this becomes, "She's a control freak, she wants everything her way, she drives me crazy, she nags, nags, nags!"
Or from the girl’s point of view, the sense of "Well, oh, he's so laid back and he comforts me and he's just so easy going!" turns quickly into "He's a bump on a log, he doesn't do anything, he's not a leader, he just sits there watching the TV all day long!”
Psalm 10:4, 6 In his pride the wicked does not seek (HIM); in all his thoughts there is no room for God… He says to himself, "Nothing will shake me; I'll always be happy and never have trouble”
There are lots of things we can do differently, but let’s start with one thing that is a keystone habit, that will open doors to lots of goodness.
It’s hard to pray with someone you’re mad at. Because when you see them through His eyes, it changes how you think about them. It’s hard to want to divorce someone you’re praying with. It’s more difficult to have an affair when you are seeking God together!
Start small, but do your best to pray for your most important relationships every day. With spouses, send a quick text or an email. Pray for needs – pray for activity – pray for decisions. Outside of marriage, cover your friends with prayer. Pray for your boss. Pray for your teachers. Pray for The Surge. Make a list… find something that works for you and don’t worry about what it is “supposed” to look like or sound like.
And it goes even bigger. In the light of the recent shootings and tragedies around the country, let’s remind each other of what Scripture has to say, about the power of prayer in national life:
2 Chronicles 7:14 if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.
Ruth, part 7 - The Exciting Conclusion
We’re checking out the last scene of the book of Ruth today. And we need to buckle in, because we are going to be panning back and seeing things that God has set in motion that are far beyond just the epic love story between Ruth and Boaz. It’s a bit like the final scene in the movie, Antz, where we find out that the entire movie takes place in a little patch of turf in Central Park in New York City and that the universe is much larger than that one story.
Ruth 4:9-11 - Then Boaz said to the elders and all the people, "You are witnesses this day that I have bought from the hand of Naomi all that belonged to Elimelech and all that belonged to Chilion and to Mahlon. Also Ruth the Moabite, the widow of Mahlon, I have bought to be my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead in his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brothers and from the gate of his native place. You are witnesses this day.”
After the great exchange struck last week between Boaz and Mr. So and So, the relative who had first dibs on Ruth, we hear Boaz confirm the sacrifice he is prepared to make to secure the redemption of Ruth. He’s not just interested in Ruth, but in preserving the family of Naomi and even Ruth’s dead husband, Mahlon.
Even more surprising, he’s sacrificing his wealth to preserve the name of Chilion, whose widow decided not to come back with her mother-in-law to Israel.
In those days, legal agreements weren’t necessarily written down. Most were oral agreements that were witnessed by the people and the elders at the city gate, where business transactions were done. What just took place reminded the great commentator Matthew Henry of another verse in scripture
2 Corinthians 8:9 - For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you by his poverty might become rich.
What Christ did for us, Boaz just did for Ruth. If you had asked Ruth what just happened, she would have said, “The grace of Boaz, who, though he was rich, just declared his willingness to become poor so that I, through his poverty, might have all that he has." Just like Boaz, Christ sacrificed for us, canceling out the debt of sin for us.
But be careful. God didn’t just cancel our debt as if it never existed. That’s not how God got rid of it. He transferred it to another, and He he caused that someone to be nailed to a tree to pay the price. And notice this. As soon as this occurs, Ruth is in! She doesn’t go through a bunch of steps to be accepted or to go from being a Moabite to a full-fledged member of Boaz’ family. It’s instantaneous. Why? Because of how wonderful Ruth is? Nope. Because everything hung on Boaz and his word and his resources and his commitment to fulfill that word. It’s what Boaz is and what he brings to the table. It’s the same with Jesus and us. Everything hangs on who Jesus is and what He brings to the table. And the exchange is declared legal and just.
Ruth 4:11a - Then all the people who were at the gate and the elders said, "We are witnesses. May the Lord make the woman, who is coming into your house, like Rachel and Leah, who together built up the house of Israel."
It’s interesting that the blessing conferred on Ruth is about as good as it gets. They could have asked that she would be like Sarah, the wife of Abraham, the father of the Jewish nation. But, Sarah only had two kids, Isaac and Ishmael, and only one of them came to faith in God. No, they ask for her to be like Rachel and Leah, who essentially were responsible for the sons that grew to be the patriarchs of the 12 tribes of the nation of Israel. That’s a pretty good thing for a Moabite woman to be compared to, no? The blessings now flow to Boaz himself.
Ruth 4:11b - May you act worthily in Ephrathah and be renowned in Bethlehem. . .
This is essentially a prayer for Boaz to have a fruitful relationship with Ruth. Bethlehem, as you may remember from week one, means “house of bread.” And the Bethlehem region was renown for grain production, resulting in the nickname “Ephrathah,” meaning fruitful place.
We find out a bit later that these blessings prayed for Ruth and Boaz come to pass. That Ruth and Boaz have a son who has a lineage all the way to Jesus, the Messiah. And this might surprise us a bit, but we have to remember that, through time, God has absolutely delighted in taking fallen and hopeless people and turning them into great and marvelous things. To show you what I mean by that, let’s take an intriguing excursion, looking at some of the key people in the genealogy of Jesus.
Matthew 1:2-3 - Abraham was the father of Isaac, and Isaac the father of Jacob, and Jacob the father of
Judah and his brothers, and Judah the father of Perez and Zerah by Tamar,
Judah was one of the 12 sons of Jacob whose family grew to be one of the 12 tribes of Israel. Judah, whose family line culminated in the Messiah. Now, we don’t get the full story here, but what a story it is. Genesis records that story. Judah goes off the reservation and marries a Canaanite woman and had children with her. One of those sons took another Canaanite wife named Tamar. Tamar’s husband dies, however, and Tamar, afraid she’s not going to find another husband, dresses up like a prostitute and seduces Judah, her father-in-law. That dalliance produced two boys, Perez and Zerah, and Perez ends up in the line of Jesus. So, you have incest and prostitution in the bloodline of Christ.
Matthew 1:4-5a - . . . and Ram the father of Amminadab, and Amminadab the father of Nahshon, and Nahshon the father of Salmon, and Salmon the father of Boaz by Rahab. . .
Uh-oh. Here we find out that the hero of our story, Boaz, had a mother named Rahab. Maybe this explains why he was so willing to reach out to a disenfranchised girl named Ruth. His mother didn’t just dress up like a prostitute. She was one in the city of Jericho. As such, she was condemned to die with the rest of the city, but she became a follower of God and was spared. So, now, we have two cases of prostitution in Jesus’ bloodline.
Ruth 1:5 - . . . and Boaz the father of Obed by Ruth. . .
Ruth by now is no surprise, right? She was a Moabite, a worshiper of false gods. A member of a nation that resulted from the incest between Lot and his daughters after the destruction of Sodom. Moab was one of the children that came out of that relationship. So, now in the direct bloodline of Jesus, we have more more incest, along with prostitution, and a bevy of non-Jewish women. It’s kind of amazing that any Messiah could show up with this ancestry.
Matthew 1:5-6 - . . . and Obed the father of Jesse, and Jesse the father of Davie the king. And David was the father of Solomon by the wife of Uriah.
Did you catch the disaster marked by that passage? Shouldn’t it have said that David was the father of Solomon by Bathsheba, his wife? Yeah, that would have been accurate. But scripture reminds us that the whole relationship between David and Bathsheba started with adultery, because Bathsheba was married at the time to Uriah. And it went from bad to worse, because David then had Uriah murdered to cover up the fact that he had gotten Bathsheba pregnant. So, to Jesus’ bloodline, you now add adultery and murder to the incest, prostitution, and a bunch of foreign women.
Here are three reasons I think God does this and draws our attention to it. In a Jewish culture that totally looked down on everyone who wasn’t a Jew, God is signaling that He considers non-Jews as very much worthy of his love and his total willingness to adopt them into his family. Wasn’t that what God had promised Abraham back in the day—that he would be a blessing to ALL nations? Second, God’s also informing us that all this rottenness is forgivable, that God can still love us through all our mess. And third, all these people showing up in Jesus’ bloodline totally destroys any theory that Jesus inherited his nobility from his fantastic ancestry. No way! Because it’s a pretty disgusting ancestry, when you get right down to it. Yeah, the holiness of Jesus had nothing to do with inheriting it from his human family tree.
God’s just that kind of God. He can not only find a place in heaven for the most messed up people, but He’ll stick them right in the very lineage of Jesus Christ. We might ask, “How could God use such wicked men and women?” Answer? That’s all He uses. If we think otherwise, we are forgetting how great He is, and we’re forgetting who we really are without Him. We tend to think we’re better than we are. So be encouraged. No one is outside God’s ability to save them!
Ok, back to Ruth.
Ruth 4:12 - and may your house be like the house of Perez, whom Tamar bore to Judah, because of the offspring that the Lord will give you by this young woman.
The book of Number tells us that Perez had so many descendants that they had to divide them into two families just to keep track of them. And it was from those two groups that the city of Bethlehem was formed. And we’re going to see pretty soon here that there is a spiritual offspring through this union between Ruth and Boaz that fulfills that prayer.
Ruth 4:13-15 - So Boaz took Ruth, and she became his wife. And he went in to her, and the Lord gave her conception, and she bore a son. Then the women said to Naomi, "Blessed be the Lord, who has not left you this day without a redeemer, and may his name be renowned in Israel! He shall be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your old age, for your daughter-in-law who loves you, who is more to you than seven sons, has given birth to him.”
It’s interesting that Ruth had been married to Mahlon for a decade and never had children. But God fixes that right away. And do you remember when Naomi returned to Israel and told everyone to call her Mara—Bitter—rather than Naomi—Pleasant? She returned with no sons, no children at all, no husband, and she expected to die impoverished. All that has changed. They put this boy in her arms who holds the promise for a future and the continuation of her family. The women with her also proclaim this amazing, almost prophetic, tribute to Ruth. In Israel, seven sons was considered the perfect family. But here they suggest that Ruth might turn out to be better for Naomi than the perfect family of seven sons. Little did they know.
Ruth 4:16-17 - Then Naomi took the child and laid him on her lap and became his nurse. And the women of the neighborhood gave him a name, saying, "A son has been born to Naomi." They named him Obed. He was the father of Jesse, the father of David.
Obed is a strange name. It means servant. And no one else in scripture is named Obed. Perhaps it was a way of honoring Ruth, who just committed herself to serve Naomi, or honoring Boaz, who committed his life to serving Ruth. Regardless, you track this family line down through the generations, and you get to King David. Keep tracking and you end up with Jesus, the servant of all mankind. And the book of Ruth ends with this.
Ruth 4:18-22 - Now these are the generations of Perez: Perez fathered Hezron, Hezron fathered Ram, Ram fathered Amminadab, Amminadab fathered Nahshon, Nahshon fathered Salmon, Salmon fathered Boaz, Boaz fathered Obed, Obed fathered Jesse, and Jesse fathered David.
Man, doesn’t this seem a little anticlimactic? But what this text is highlighting is that this child is not just any child. He is the child that continues through to establish the Davidic line and continues that all the way to Jesus, which we see in the genealogy in Matthew. And thanks for scripture, we see that this family line originated all the way back in Genesis, with Seth, the son of Adam and Eve. And Seth tracks all the way to Noah, and then all the way to Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Judah, Perez and on through to Boaz and David, and ultimately to Christ.
Israel was meant to read this and conclude, “God is great. He can save anybody, and He can use anybody. He can not only save them, but He can use them in amazing ways. And everything points ultimately to Jesus, just as it should.
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